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You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt

 
 
One book that I can truly say changed my life 16 years ago was Susan Jeffers Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. It wasn't all that long after I had lost my mother and I was fearful of the future without having a Mum to guide me (even though I was well and truly an adult). I was fearful of making changes in my life and expanding my possibilities. 
 
In the book, Jeffers revealed that our most underlying fear is whether we will be able to handle the adversity not the adversity itself. This amongst other pearls struck a chord with me at the time and I then proceeded to break out of comfort zones. I was working in Occupational Health and discovered that I really loved training, teaching others despite being fearful of public speaking. 
 
The book and a very kind mentor encouraged me to follow my passion and gave me the motivation to upgrade my Nursing Certificate to a Degree. I had always believed that I wasn't bright enough for University so it was a big step. Have I ever looked back? Not at all. I am so grateful for that book and for Brian's belief in me. 
 

Many times since fear has paralysed me and I have lacked courage to make changes particularly at times when it seems the universe has been telling me loud and clear - "make the change or we will make it for you". Each time I have taken what I can only describe as a leap of faith, amazing things have occurred. As a result, I have an incredible feeling of aliveness and I become proud of myself for making the change.  

For some months now I have been letting go of old ways of being and doing both in business/career and personally, feeling strongly guided to do so without knowing why at the time only that it was needed for me to be able to be of greater service to others. I didn't want to let go of some things but knew somehow that it was important to do so. No sooner had I released the old that many new and timely opportunities flooded in.  I had complete trust in the process and have not felt in the least fearful making changes but rather welcomed them with open arms. I of course feel a little challenged with some of the new work I have taken on, but again really having faith that I am meant to be where I am, doing what I am doing at this time. And this seems to make it alittle easier to cope with learning new things. 

There are many Australian Bush Flower Essences to help us overcome our fears, increase our confidence, cope with change and so forth. Two essences synonymous with fear are Dog Rose for fears that niggle us and Grey Spider Flower for out and out panic and terror. I have several clients who have benefitted greatly from using these essences to manage panic disorders and many times used them in remedies to support those making changes in their life. 

 

Despite the world being ever changing and evolving - the seasons change, the eras bring change etc many of us say we don't really like change. We want things to stay the same except when we are unhappy or uncomfortable. Even then we may stay in a bad situation simply because we are too fearful to take a risk and make a change. When we do this we are not really living our passion, we may be aside from unhappy, scared, resentful, frustrated. Perhaps we aren't giving our best to others.  Eventually our health suffers as we suffer. Bauhinia is a wonderful essence for helping us to embrace change.  

Sometimes we don't know what we want or what needs to change. Silver Princess can help us find out life purpose and Paw Paw can help us connect with our Higher Wiser Self to help us to make decisions.  

Then when we make the change - whether it be it a new job/career or decide to start dating again, there are remedies to help the change occur more smoothly. Five Corners to build self esteem, Isopogon to help us remember and integrate new knowledge (along with Paw Paw), Kangaroo Paw to minimise the sense of feeling awkward on a first date. Black Eyed Susan and Crowea for the nerves. Waratah for courage to make change. 

 

Meditation is also very helpful for listening to the still small voice within, the Higher Wiser Self. Meditation can help us connect with Spirit/God/Angels/Guides whatever your belief system might be. It can also very importantly help us to make wiser, more objective and less emotional decisions.  

Last week I enjoyed a beautiful session of acupuncture combined with sound healing. It was the perfect opportunity to meditate and in so doing I began to understand a little more of why I have made particular changes and how they need to play out. It enabled me to strengthen my faith that I was on the right track and gave me an indication of how to act now. 

Reiki can also assist with managing fear and stress. I have had many clients who swear it helped them with preoperative fears, travel fears and with making sometimes quite significant life changes. In my own experience, a long term fear of a particular person in my life diminished following receiving a reiki treatment just after I had had a particularly unpleasant morning with them.  

My whole experience of reiki has been about faith. Belief in the body's ability to heal itself, belief that reiki does assist the body to heal itself, belief in myself to share this healing modality with others through giving and teaching. Reiki gave me the courage to start my business in complementary therapies. When I completed the Master/Teacher level, I had the courage to start teaching straight away. More typically, I would procrastinate for a while most likely out of fear but I just knew it would be ok with reiki.  

It is really true about the strength of replacing fear with faith. When you have true faith, there is no room for fear. At this time of change and growth, I continually ask for guidance and support from the Universe, the angels and spiritual guides. I continually remind myself that I am being helped and supported. When new situations are particularly challenging, I affirm that it is happening perfectly and that I am where I am meant to be and somehow the fear lessens and I feel more peaceful.  

As Ghandi suggests "be the change you want to see in the world" 

 

I do want to see change in the world.  I want the world to be a more loving, peaceful place where people are empowered to help and heal themselves and others.  I want people to have less fear, have more courage to follow their life purpose and love in their hearts for all living things.  I feel that with facing my fears, making change and changing myself in recent times, I am living my dream. 

With Love and Blessings,

Pam xx